How to Partner with your Coaching Clients
As I defined partnering in coaching already and explained it thoroughly I will repeat my definition for convenience:
Partnering is a way of Presence of the coach in the coaching relationship where the Client leads the process in terms of content and direction yet holds the structure as a consequence of responding to what the client brings into the session.
And when I hear the presence of the coach and responding to what the client brings into the session, I think of the PCC Markers where Partnering shows and is measured explicitly. Hence I will list them below along their core competency for the convenience of understanding:
Coach partners with the client by:
- Supporting the client to choose what happens in the session.
- Inviting the client to respond in any way to the coach’s contributions and accepts the client’s response.
- Playing back the client’s expressed possibilities for the client to choose from
- Encouraging the client to formulate his or her learning.
Designing Actions, Planning And Goal Setting, Managing Progress And Accountability
- Coach partners with the client to close the session.
Now you might wonder:
What means to respond to what the client brings into the session?
The first thing that I think of is the core competency of:
With the associated markers:
- Coach acts in response to both the whole person of the client and what the client wants to accomplish in the session.
- Coach is observant, empathetic, and responsive.
Second as crucial as coaching presence is:
- Coach’s questions and observations are customized by using what the coach has learned about who the client is and the client’s situation.
- Coach inquires about or explores the client’s use of language.
How do you Partner in Coaching?
One possible way to partner is to be present to the client and what the client brings into the coaching. Moreover, if the coach active listens to the client and allows the client to be in charge with the direction and content of the coaching.
It means that a way to do that is to eliminate from our response unconscious:
and seek that our response is non-directive and non-leading.
When I say response, I mean questions (most core competencies use questions) and direct communication (where we might bring an observation, comment or intuition).
If you feel the above is still abstract, I agree with you. It took me years of practice to grasp the nuances behind their description. Wonder what your questions or comments are. For me, the items in my mind work as intentions. After a while, if I give them some attention, I get answers to them in a manifested way.