Sometimes I wish I would have succeeded in a more natural way. I recall a moment after the CTI certification program. I honestly believed that I have a high level of competency.
And that happened because I could see how my clients were flourishing. But this was conflicting to me. I had a sense that something is not in the right place. And it was not.
Later when I worked with an independent mentor, I found that the way I was creating the coaching agreement was incomplete. There was a lot of room for upgrades.
Now I am an assessor for ICF. I know precisely how a “perfect” creating the coaching agreement could look. Moreover, if you seek perfection at the coaching agreement without responding to the client, you might lose your coaching presence. Or lead and direct the client.
But our coaching presence is informing our responses to what the clients bring. And that is where partnering comes into place. I was not aware of what Partnering meant until I prepared myself for my MCC certification. That might lead us to a great deal of connection with our clients – creating trust and intimacy.
I recall that sometimes I was using formulaic questions. The client asked back questions so they could know what I mean. And I did not realize that until I listened to other coaches doing it.
If you are ready and choose to, we’ll go together through a learning process — an experiential one. Once you have a direct experience of the process, you (along with your emotional and physical body) will seek to relive these moments. You will do that through being not attached by what you say, what you need. You will be aware of them and if you want, use them in a partnering way. You can bring them as an observation, comment or intuition in a way that allows the client to claim their truth. And this is direct communication.
Because of that, your inputs will have the potential to create awareness and could lead naturally to designing actions that the client could take.
And if we are aware and know how to listen for dynamic shifts – we could look for objections to new possibilities. And facilitate a process that supports the client in moving permanently to a new stance — a “who” that sustains that.
As you read this story, you might have expected a more structured text, with headings. Maybe something more linear. I noticed that sometimes coaches, I’m guilty of this as well, try to structure the coaching with questions and direct communication before responding to what the client brings. Well according to my experience it’s the other way around.
Paradoxically we bring structure to the coaching by following the clients not by directing them. But this is not coaching. Let’s bring a bit of structure.
How we do it?
We have group activities
We got “intellectual” and practice parts in the seven sessions held in the group. In the practice section, we coach someone. And you receive feedback for what works great. And you can reinforce and consolidate that. Moreover, you receive upgrades where your coaching competence could go to the next level. Or you can respond to the client differently.
This process brings a lot of training. And you can practice between the group sessions. That brings more shifts, learning, and awareness, and consolidates the new Who of you.
We have individual activities
You might be wondering what the process we go through together is:
- You record a session with a client that grants you the explicit permission to record and distribute it.
- You create a transcript of your coaching session with the client. Those mentioned above will help us seek and find specific evidence of your competencies.
- You send the recording and transcript to me.
- I assess it in terms of seeking the evidence of competency
- I create a strategic plan with upgrades recommendations
- We hold a one-hour session on zoom to reflect on that together
- I deliver my written assessment plus upgrade recommendations
- You continue practicing what feels resonant and right for you.
- You get the credit for 10 Mentoring Hours with a Mentor in good standing.
If in my perception your recording goes over the minimal requirements for ACC/PCC you can send it to the ICF. Else you can record another one, and we could go again through the loop.
If you only seek mastery, you can go back and practice and if you feel like you can come back later to check progress and see whether there is room for upgrades.
Group Session Dates:
- Wednesday the 11th of September 2019 at 18:00 HRS, Eastern European Time.
- Wednesday the 25th of September 2019 at 18:00 HRS, Eastern European Time.
- Wednesday the 9th of October 2019 at 18:00 HRS, Eastern European Time.
- Wednesday the 23rd of October 2019 at 18:00 HRS, Eastern European Time.
- Wednesday the 13th of November 2019 at 18:00 HRS, Eastern European Time.
- Wednesday the 27th of November 2019 at 18:00 HRS, Eastern European Time.
- Wednesday the 11 of December 2019 at 18:00 HRS, Eastern European Time.
Individual Sessions Dates:
Depending on your needs and constraints you can start programming the three individual mentoring sessions with Ioan and get them by the 10th of February, 2020.